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This is a question my 2 year old asked me the other day. I had spoken to him about breasts before and when he saw me naked he said “mommy you have boobies!” and I agreed. What I had dreaded most about having boys was about to happen. I saw him circling me like a shark in water and then he said it. “Mommy where’s your weiner!!” The panic in his voice was nothing compared to what was going through my head.

I told him mommy doesn’t have one and ended it at that. Then I got to thinking later what the right thing to say is? In a two year olds mind he probably thinks something happened to mine. Then I start thinking maybe it wasn’t such a good idea to tell him when he touched it, it could fall off. I know terrible! I just panicked and said the first thing that would get him to stop.

I wanted to share an exert from a website that really gave me a clearer understanding;

“At birth, your child begins the lifelong process of learning who she or he is as a sexual being. For example, the genitals (sex organs) already work.  Your baby boy can have erections (his penis gets hard); your baby girls vagina can become wet. These responses happen even without touching. By the end of the first year, it is common for both boys and girls to touch their genitals. Some infants just a few months old may have orgasms. 

Relax! This simply means that your child’s body is working well. Children have feelings about their bodies long before they can talk. As you cuddle, feed, change and talk to your child, the good feelings grow. It is easier for infants who receive loving touch to be close to other people when they become adults. This is part of sex education. 

Touch teaches your infant that she or he has a body; words teach your toddler what you think of your bodies. 

Give your child words for all parts of the body. Along with ‘eyes’, ‘nose’, and ‘mouth’, teach ‘vulva’, ‘penis’, and ‘anus’. These are the correct dictionary words that show respect for our bodies, are socially acceptable, and are understood by others.  ”

I always said I would be the cool mom, the open mom that they could come to about anything and look at me freaking out already. Someone save me when puberty hits. From here on out though, the only advice I can give is to really equip yourself with information. Oh and don’t tell them it will fall off. You might end up like me, without a weiner.

http://pcchu.peterborough.on.ca/Parenting/P-talking-sex.html